Love breaks….

Love breaks barriers…

This is Paula. Or here in the blogging world she is Never A Dull Bling

When I started blogging she was my very first follower. She encouraged me with my revenge and wogging. Laughed at my humor and all in all a perfect first follower. As time went on we found out we live only a few hours from each other. We moved to WA from AZ. She, like me only has one child. It was funny to see so many connections in our cyber world friendship.

When the cancer call came I used my blog as my safe space. The one place where I felt safe in sharing my fears, tears and ‘deer in the headlights’ moments.  The one place where I could talk about revenge on my body. Not for weight and strength, but for fighting the enemy within.

I remember I posted my results from a test I had been studying for along with mentioning waiting for results from my biopsy test. Paula was right there checking in on me. When I posted about the cancer she waited a few days to say anything because she was overwhelmed and shocked for me. It was a huge comfort to have a stranger listening to me.

As time went on we chatted via other social media outlets and eventually exchanged phone numbers. I remember one night bringing a box upstairs from Amazon. I figured it was my case of Lysol I ordered to have on hand during chemotherapy. I was tired and went to bed early that night. I heard my phone vibrate. It was a text from Paula telling me to open the package. How did she know I had a package??!??!?  The next text was; please open it, it will help you sleep tonight (:.  I open the box and inside with a very sweet note was the softest and happiest teddy bear I have ever seen! He was so perfect! She had gotten me a teddy bear to hug on while going through chemo. So thoughtful. Unbelievably thoughtful.

I named him ‘Bear’ I know so creative. I decided that Bear would have to do happy stuff with me if he was going to do the bad stuff with me. So off on a road trip we went. We had breakfast together and went hiking too. I have pictures of Bear and I out and about. Funny how with a cancer living in you and doing chemo you don’t really care anymore what the public might say to you.  Bear still workouts with me daily . You can see him in all my Cancercize videos on YouTube.

The best part of this cyber support was when I actually had a chance to meet Paula and her hubby James in person. They run, a lot. They had a run in Montana and wanted to stay at the half way point which just happened to be where I live. We set a time and place to meet for a quick cup of coffee before they had to leave. This picture is from that. I knew what she looked like from her blogs. This was a HUGE moment for me. One that I did not want to miss. In fact I had surgery two days before this picture. I WAS NOT GOING TO MISS HUGGING PAULA IN PERSON. Not for anything. Even though Keith had to help me in and out of the car and sit up and down. All of it was worth it. To see her in person.

I am so thankful for this blog. I am so thankful for people you connect with. I am especially thankful that Paula connected with me. I consider her a dear friend. One that made the process so much better. Thankful she cheered me on.

Love is breaking barriers. Love is breaking through the cyber wall for a hug.


  1. SlowRunnerGirl · January 26, 2017

    What a wonderful post!

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  2. neveradullbling · January 26, 2017

    Awww, thank you sweet Renee. You’ve left me speechless with your kind words. I’m so happy we found each other!! Xoxo

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  3. neveradullbling · January 26, 2017

    Reblogged this on Never A Dull Bling and commented:
    Written by a fellow blogger turned beautiful and inspirational friend… a tough lady who beat the hell out of cancer. I am thankful and proud to be part of this wonderful community. No hate, just love.

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  4. Anna Cottage · January 26, 2017

    That was so touching, so humbling – what can I say to you except thoughts are with you. You certainly do have a very special Friend in Paula, a bond that can’t be broken, and your little friend Bear who will always be with you and there for you. God Bless, love Anna.

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  5. Chocolaterunsjudy · January 26, 2017

    Awww, Paula is just as sweet in person as she is on her blog, because I, too, have had the pleasure of meeting her in RL. I am glad you were both able to connect that way too!

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  6. runningtotravel · January 27, 2017

    Although I am new to blogging and this online community, I am beginning to see just how supportive a group it is and I am so happy I am a part of it. What a sweet and inspiring story!

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  7. wanderwolf · January 28, 2017

    Hello Renee,
    Well, now I’ve gotten to know another really cool person… you! And you and Bear have a lot more adventures to go on! I look forward to following them.

    Liked by 1 person

  8. Susan Leighton · January 30, 2017

    Hi Renee! Paula is very caring and a delight! She is the first blog I subscribed to when I came online in July of last year. So glad to see that you and Bear are sharing adventures together. What an inspirational post! Thank you.

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  9. eths · February 12, 2017

    What a beautiful post!

    Liked by 1 person

  10. Claremary P. Sweeney · February 20, 2017

    I think people like the two of you are absolutely awesome!!!

    Liked by 1 person

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